Today we’d like to introduce you to Kikki Boinski.
Alright, so thank you so much for sharing your story and insight with our readers. To kick things off, can you tell us a bit about how you got started?
I was diagnosed with breast cancer in October, 2021 in Kansas City, Missouri. In July, 2022 I moved to Portland, Oregon.
I post about my adventures on TikTok and YouTube.
I remember answering my phone at work in October, 2021.
What was going on in that moment in my life?
I was two months into my twins senior year of high school in Missouri.
My ex husband had asked me to let our twins live with him full time. He said he would still give me child support for two children not living with me. After talking to the therapist still involved with my case due to domestic violence abuse, I refused.
Now I found my doctor was on the other end of my phone. What he said exactly, I can’t remember. But I do remember him saying, “The lump we removed from your breast, was cancer. We want to do another surgery and remove the area around your breast.”
No one gives you a manual on how to react to finding out you have cancer.
A month later, I was laying in bed after the next surgery. I found myself listening to Tim McGraw song, “Live Like You Were Dying”.
That became my anthem. I learned TikTok to share my journey. I decided to not pursue further cancer treatments and enjoy my twins senior year. I spoiled them. And enjoyed running them and their friends around town. I encouraged them to learn how to drive at James A. Reed Memorial Wildlife Area, outside of Lees Summit, Mo. I had learned to drive at my parent’s farm 3 hours outside of Kansas City, Mo.
Then my twins told me they didn’t have a choice, they couldn’t see me again. They had just graduated high school.
I went into my job and asked for a transfer. Portland, Oregon was my destination.
I couldn’t keep up with the gifts my ex husband bought our twins. Instead, the twins and I took nice vacations with the child support money I got from my ex husband. We came to Oregon/Washington in 2019. The twins told me at Easter in 2022, the trip to Oregon was the worst vacation I ever took them on.
I also wanted to heal my inner child. My mother sexually and physically abused me. Does the beach heal? I would say, it definitely does. And it is free.
What have I found being in Portland, Oregon?
I found Amber Gonzalez, CSA therapist. Amber has accounts on TikTok and Instagram. Amber wrote a children’s book, about Safe Touch. It’s my favorite book to heal my inner child. I also submitted my child csa story for Amber’s Instagram page under her paid subscriptions. That was extremely healing, I was not expecting.
I found myself submitting my parental alienation story, along with my court documents to Stand With Meg. She is another twin mom who is fighting parental alienation and sharing her journey on Instagram , YouTube and TikTok. She also has an apple podcast, Justice Unmasked. I was featured in November, 2024. Two years after my last breast cancer hospital surgery. That was free healing. I just had to submit my story.
I found a doctor in Portland, Oregon that understands me. Thru her, I feel safe enough, to finally admit, I have trauma with the medical profession. My mother, my abuser, who also sexually molested me, was a nurse. She passed away a year before my breast cancer diagnosis.
Currently, at this moment in my life, I am finding healing, donating things I don’t need, to a local free pantry in Portland, Oregon.
I found Community Crate PDX on TikTok one day. I had been wanting to find an organization, I could donate my things too.
I reached out, and found myself driving to the street the free pantry is on.
It was windy, I had a cold, but I felt happy sitting in front of that free pantry. I watched people go up and take things out of the pantry and leave things there. It was beautiful and healing to watch. I didn’t expect to feel that on this adventure with my breast cancer.
I was able to meet the people organizing the free pantry. I asked why they created it.
On Halloween they put out bags of Cheetos Flaming hot chips. The reaction they got from that is what started the free pantry.
I used to process snap applications in Missouri and Colorado. I taught my twins to use food pantries after I left my ex husband. And Community Crate PDX is the best example of why I did that.
Can you talk to us a bit about the challenges and lessons you’ve learned along the way. Looking back would you say it’s been easy or smooth in retrospect?
It has not been a smooth road saying no to what the medical community wants me to do on my breast cancer journey.
I interviewed three doctors after I got to Portland, Oregon. I needed a doctor who was okay with “It’s my body, my choice.”
My doctor honors that with me.
My doctor also validates my csa trauma. That’s a priceless find I wasn’t expecting when I started my breast cancer journey.
I don’t know if I would have gotten that in Kansas City, Missouri.
Thanks – so what else should our readers know about your work and what you’re currently focused on?
I like to show people on TikTok you have other choices on how to navigate a breast cancer and parental alienation journey.
I teach classes on TikTok on how to create a book to sell on amazon using an app called, Canva.
It is my goal this year to create a picture book of my adventures to the Oregon coast. I like to go on my twins birthday. They recently turned 21. I have not talked to them since they were almost 18.
I am most proud, I did something about two problems, breast cancer and parental alienation, I have that, that I can’t control. I moved over 2,000 miles away and started over. And what I found was healing. When I was 18, I wanted to drop out of college and move to the Pacific Northwest. I figured it was now or never when I walked into my job and asked for that transfer. I could have asked for a transfer to Hawaii.
I am happy to be in Portland, Oregon instead.
Risk taking is a topic that people have widely differing views on – we’d love to hear your thoughts.
Moving to Portland, Oregon was a risk.
I left my support system in Kansas City, Missouri and started over.
I knew no one in Oregon when I moved here.
Recently, I was on the freeway, on the way to my mechanic, and the motor in my windshield wipers went out. I immediately threw on my hazard lights.
I learned that on my drive from Kansas City to Portland, Oregon. Drivers would turn on hazard lights going up mountains in Montana.
I am still here, in 2026, living on a mountain, in the West Hills in an apartment complex in Portland, Oregon.
The risk has been worth it.
I have not done the radiation that was recommended to me, after my breast cancer diagnosis in 2021.
Contact Info:
- Website: TikTok KIkki Boinski
- Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@kikkiboinski
